In Singapore marriage is considered a beautify relationship that binds two souls who have love and compassion in their hearts. FamilyRootsOrganizer is strong advocate of the fact that having someone in your life gives you the peace of mind that you have the support and love your need in order to succeed and live a healthy life.
Well, most of the time it happens that people in Singapore find someone who can offer them such things, but, also some of the time it happens that people don’t get these things from their spouse and after a particular time period, they get separated from each other.
While, this is the huge steps that any person will take in his/her life because no matter there have been years or few months in their marriage, but they are emotionally attached to each other so that they cannot take this thing quite easily.
Now the question might pop up in someone’s mind that why then people get divorced if it is quite a painful thing to do for them. So, for the answer to this question, we are here going to tell you about 5 common causes of divorce in Singapore.
Verbal Emotional Abuse
Today, more and more people are seeking online counseling as an alternative to in-person one-on-one therapy. If you are considering any form of counseling online, here are a list of pros and cons that may help you decide if the online route is the way to go. Before considering any form of counseling, make sure to do your research to ensure that you are comfortable with your chosen counselor/therapist before electing to consent to any long-term counseling sessions. All forms of online counseling or therapy should always remain confidential, between you and the professional.
Online counseling, which is essentially accessed from the internet, and from the convenience of home, or anywhere for that matter, affords the luxury of time flexibility as many online counselors or therapists work various hours throughout the day, and can schedule sessions more around your own availability. Also, since communication also takes place via email, you can contact your counselor/therapist as as much as you like in between live chat or phone sessions.
Option to Email, Web Chat & Phone
These primary luxuries of online counseling can be beneficial to anyone who may be shy or less willing to share certain information in person. By having the email, web chat and phone option, clients can decide exactly what they would like to communicate without the anxiety that some direct person-to-person contact may bring. Also, this factor is very helpful for individuals who are seeking counseling for the first time, and may not feel completely comfortable seeing someone in person just yet. This gives clients the opportunity to assess if counseling is right for them, and if so, they may even opt to try traditional walk-in counseling.
Some clients seeking online counseling find that the online experience is even more private because they are not physically going into therapy, and they feel that they have better control over what is being shared as opposed to being in a person-to-person live session. Clients also have the option to be anonymous.
More Options to Choose From
As online counseling grows, there are more and more sites and resources to choose from, thus more professionals to choose from. Clients have the option to change counselors/therapist more frequently, if needed, and can also screen multiple therapists/counselors at a time for approval.
Online counseling also permits more affordable options, while naturally, saving you the money that would take to travel to and from an office.
Access Records through Email
Through email, you can also keep a record of correspondance between your counselor/therapist as well as take your time in writing to think about what is being said. This allows you to recover old advice and conversations with the counselor. Clients may also be more willing to implement that advice. This is similar to the benefit process of journaling for personal progression.
Confidentiality May Be Compromised
Although confidentiality is required between counselor/therapist and client within any counseling session, online visibility does have its risks. Information can not always be completely confidential if emails are visible to other third parties and such.
Lack of One-On-One Contact
The lack of personal contact can have its disadvantages as the counselor/therapist may not be able to read certain cues which affords them greater discernment of each client's state of mind or emotion. Although, this is not always an issue, it can still be somewhat restrictive. Also, and this is a matter of judgement, individuals seeking counseling may feel that the online approach lacks the genuine essence of interpersonal interaction that you can get and maintain through personal contact with an individual. Sometimes the distance can be a factor, and they fill it limits the effectiveness or quality of interaction by confiding in someone that they have never met in person.
Requires A Computer & Internet
Although this is obvious, it may also be a hinderance for some clients who are not comfortable with computers or do not have consistent internet access.
Not the Best Route For Clients with Mental Illness
For severe cases, online counseling may not be recommended for those diagnosed with extreme mental illness.
As you can see, there are more benefits than there are disadvantages to online counseling, but ultimately, you should be the judge of what works for you. Just keep in mind, that confidentiality, being comfortable, and speaking with someone that can help you with your particular concerns, are all key requirements to seeking and benefiting from any therapy.
I am an online Creative Wellness Consultant specializing in Holistic Healing, Stress Management, Creative Arts & Writing, and Personal Development.
© 2011 Latasha Woods
One of the biggest reasons that you will find as the cause of divorce is infidelity. This thing determines the activity of cheating your spouse on someone. Since it is obvious that every person that gets married vows to spend the rest of his/her life with that person only. He/she takes some vows according to which he/she will never leave his/her spouse, will never hurt him/her and also not let him/her alone in any situation. Well, this thing happens to almost every person but in some cases, people get into infidelity due to which their relationship does not work out.
Well, the divorce step in the case of infidelity does not take by the person who is cheating, but by the person that is being cheated by that person. In this case, when the other person finds out that his/her spouse is involved with any other person and he/she is cheated on me, then he/she does not want to live with that person anymore and he/she claims the divorce to get apart.
2. Money And Finances
Another one of the biggest elements that become the cause of divorce between two people is money. Well, money is the most basic need that every person wants to have in his life. There is nothing can be done in a real-life if a person doesn’t have money in Singapore. Although the financial status varies from one another if we say that a person had survived in his/her life without money in his/her hand, then it is totally wrong.
Well, in the case of marriage, money and financial status play an important role. If a person, especially man, is financially strong, then his woman will go far with him by living happily, but if the status goes down by any reason, then there is a huge chance that she does not want to live without that person and she get divorce from him. Additionally, this thing applies on the man, like if a person has a figure in his mind that his wife will get with her in her account and she will make him as the caretaker of that amount, then the man will consider that lady, but if she finds out after some time that the things those he was expecting from her, will not be fulfilled in any case, then he gets himself apart from her. In such cases, the relationships are meant to be materialistic instead of emotional.
3. Lack of Communication
According to resaerch conducted by FamilyRootsOrganizer every relationship is built on effective communication. If you are do not talk a lot with a person to whom you have some kind of relationship, then you will not be able to take it way too far.
The same thing happens in the case of marriage. This relationship in Singapore highly needs to build effective communication to make it strong. Both husband and wife need to talk to each other on different topics and spend quality time with each other. When this thing does not happen, then there appear clashes between both of them. Both people feel mental differences from each and they don’t get a proper time to make their relationship strong. This is the reason that they end up being divorced and get separated from each other.
4. Lack of Intimacy
Sex is also another one of the most important things that makes a relationship stronger. We at FamilyRootsOrganizer believe if your spouse is not sexually fit as you are, then you will not be able to handle the relationship because every person has some particular sexual needs. If they are being fulfilled, then you will definitely a source by which you can get make these needs fulfilled.
This is the reason that when a person between husband or wife, feels lack of intimacy, then you will alternately end up to be divorced, and find any other person with which you are fully satisfied.
5. Abuse: Physical Or Mental
Abusing is also quite an essential thing that become the reason of divorce between two people. No matter, it is sexual abuse, emotional abuse, or any kind of physical abuse, no person can bear it for a long time. In this case, he/she will alternately take an action and demand for divorce or permanent separation.
How getting relationship therapy can help save the relationship?
Well, everything in this world has some kind of therapy for the betterment and improvement in that thing. If you are depressed or get anxiety attacks, then you will definitely get a proper therapy session, to get rid of it. Similarly, there is also a relationship therapy that helps you out to run your relationship better.
FamilyRootsOrganizer therapies help you out to understand the positive aspects of your relationship and give it a chance to work out. They encourage you to give your relationship a chance and try to make it better by changing your attitude or tackling the other person’s behavior.
So, make sure to have the relationship therapy if you are involved in any of this situation and give your marriage a chance instead of divorce.
Person Centred Counselling and the Core Conditions
In our modern era, much of what is important happens online. Bills, shopping, relationships, and more. So of course, our modern couples are interested to know if they can meet online for premarital counseling too.
Here at Growing Self we’ve been pioneering online marriage counseling, online life coaching, and online therapy for years. So doing online premarital counseling is naturally an option that we offer.
In fact, doing online premarital counseling works extremely well for many couples. This is especially true for couples where one (or both) people frequently travel, who have busy schedules, who live in rural areas with few options for premarital counseling locally, or who may live long distance from each other.
Our model of premarital counseling is particularly effective in an online format, because it’s structured. We help you strengthen your relationship in six main areas:
How to help each other feel loved and respected
How to communicate with each other
How to deal with inevitable conflict constructively, without it turning into a fight
How to grow together, for an interesting, fresh, enjoyable marriage
How to get on the same page about important things like money, parenting and more
Depending on your relationship’s strengths and “growth opportunities,” we can help you both learn key skills for achieving peace and harmony in all or a few of those areas. Or you may have other things on your mind that you’d like to address and resolve before getting married. That is completely fine too. We can adjust our process to fit your needs.
As well as online premarital counseling works for many of our couples, there are situations where it is not a good idea. If you are having major issues in your relationship where there is a lot of anger and emotional reactivity, or you are dealing with more serious concerns like drug or alcohol addiction, or domestic violence, you should seek help from a qualified provider in your community.
But under most circumstances, meeting online for premarital counseling works beautifully.
Here’s how it works: We see couples for premarital counseling online through Skype, FaceTime and Google Hangouts. If you would like to meet in person at one of our Denver area locations (Denver / Cherry Creek, Broomfield, or Denver Tech Center) that is also an option. Some couples like to do a combination of in-person and online premarital counseling. Either way, the first step in getting started with online premarital counseling, either with our “I DO!” premarital program, or private premarital counseling is to schedule a free consultation session with one of the expert marriage counselors on our team.
After you schedule your consultation (either by calling our 24/7 receptionist, or through our online calendar) your premarital counselor will be following up with you to get your online contact information. They’ll call you at the time of your appointment. If you are doing a three way call, the premarital counselor will call both of you at the same time.
If you have more questions about premarital counseling at Growing Self, would like to get matched with a premarital counselor, or would like help enrolling in one of our premarital counseling programs, call anytime.